Understanding the signs and symptoms of anger issues is crucial for recognising when your anger becomes a problem. Look out for these symptoms early to take steps to manage your anger effectively:
Physical signs
Increased heart rate - When a person is angry, their heart rate and blood pressure go up. This is because of a rise in levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. The body's instictive "fight or flight" response to an attack triggers these reactions.
Tension or tight muscles - Anger often leads to muscle tension, particulary in the neck, shoulders and back.
Clenched fists - Clenching fists, shaking and trembling are common physical signs of anger. It can be a subconscious reaction that indicates a person's readiness to defend himself.
Other physical signs - Sweating, feeling hot or flushed
Emotional signs
Moodiness - Feeling irritable and short-tempered. Minor disagreements can provoke a disproportionate emotional response.
Frustration - Feeling persistently frustrated, especially when things don't go as planned
Resentment - Holding grudges and feeling resentful towards others for past actions or perceived wrongdoings is a common sign. It can worsen and grow, leading to more intense feelings.
Other emotional signs - Feeling anxious, depressed or overwhelmed
Using alcohol or drugs won't help with anger issues. It will only make things worse. Seek healthier ways to cope with anger. Talk to someone close to you and practise relaxation techniques to help keep things under control.
In some extreme cases of poor anger management, seeking help from a mental health professional may be useful.
When does anger become a problem in children and when should parents seek professional help?
Anger becomes a problem when its intensity is out of proportion to the situation. Red flags for when parents should seek professional help are:
- When anger lasts for a long time
- When the child expresses anger in an aggressive or destructive manner
Children who are constantly angry and easily provoked may have difficulties making and keeping friends. They often don't understand social situations well and find it hard to understand the perspectives of others. They may also not consider the consequences of their actions before acting.
Why is learning to control anger around children important?
Children often model their parents and learn how to respond emotionally to situations. When parents yell and act aggressively, children learn that expressing anger in that manner is okay.
